by Jenny Leigh Hodgins
One of the alternatives to traditional funeral plans explored in Creative Memorial Planning Facebook group is the involvement of a death doula.
I spoke with Australia-based Death Educator, Doula, Trainer, and Clinical Hypnotherapist Denise Love about how an end-of-life-doula serves families as an alternative to a traditional funeral plan.
Drop an #aha if anything in our conversation resonates with you! Ask questions freely!
Contact Denise Love to learn more about involving a death doula in your end of life plans.
I help 50+ adults and families explore earth-friendly, cost-reducing alternatives to traditional funeral plans with less or zero corporate or religious involvement and map out your personalized, meaningful, creative memorial plan.
Get the step by step journey to relief, peace of mind, huge cost savings, and satisfaction from getting your personalized creative memorial planned.
Join Creative Memorial Planning Facebook Group to catch REPLAYS from my 5-day virtual event, SUNSET SUMMIT.
Learn about alternatives to traditional funerals and end of life plans that are more gentle, comforting, cost-reducing, and planet-friendly.
SUNSET SUMMIT featured a variety of experts offering ways for transforming your Golden Chapter of life with earth-friendly, personalized, cost-reducing, and meaningful end of life services and support.
For a limited time you may watch the REPLAYS from experts who presented throughout the 5-day event.
You'll hear from death educators, transition doulas, and grief therapists. You'll gain educational information on support for caregivers, midlife wellness experts, and learn more about earth-friendly, gentler alternatives to traditional end of life planning.
SUNSET SUMMIT is ONLY available to Creative Memorial Planning Facebook Group members.
by Jenny Leigh Hodgins
Using courage to do the hard stuff empowers you with more confidence and forges inner strength.
When you do what’s hard—eventually you make it to the other side of that task or situation. You know what you feel once you've faced the challenge?
You lighten up your life. You feel lighter because you’ve done what needs doing —so you have no regrets. It’s an incredibly positive feeling. I wish for you to experience it.
The way you do that is by mustering your courage to face your fear, the discomfort, the challenge or obstacle, and moving forward anyway.
Having courage doesn’t mean you don’t have fear, anxiety, or doubt.
But moving forward even when you feel afraid, nervous, or anxious is courage itself.
Once you have bravely moved forward to do the hard stuff anyway, you have created within yourself an expanded life state that will enable you to handle life’s inevitable obstacles more readily and with greater ease.
It's like Eleanor Roosevelt said about facing the worst. Once you've gotten through it you can face anything else that comes along. Because you'll have found your inner strength and capability.
This is my experience.
Speaking of facing challenges, do you know what to do about your death and why it matters that you do it?
I hope you use your courage to get your end of life plan in place now, regardless of your age or schedule. Facing this task courageously relieves not only you—but paves a much smoother path for surviving loved ones.
Do you know what to do when someone dies? Do you know how to prepare your loved ones in advance for your end of life? (Other than just doing nothing about it and/or leaving it to corporate funeral reps to handle it in their corporate custom ways at their premium prices-- with earth damaging effects?)
Why does that matter?
Watch my video above to learn more...
Join Creative Memorial Planning Facebook Group to attend my upcoming SUNSET SUMMIT, from October 26 -30, 2020.
SUNSET SUMMIT will feature thirteen fabulous experts offering ways for preparing and transforming your Golden Chapter of life by living fully and dying well! SUNSET SUMMIT will feature LIVE presentations from experts throughout the 5-day event.
You'll hear from death educators, transition doulas, grief therapists, hypnotherapists, and coaches. You'll gain educational information on support for caregivers, tips for dealing with anxiety, and wellness for midlife, as well as more earth-friendly, gentler, personalized alternatives to traditional end of life plans.
SUNSET SUMMIT will ONLY be available to Creative Memorial Planning Facebook Group members.
by Jenny Leigh Hodgins
How can the dark, depressing topic of memorial planning fit in with YourCreativeChord's purpose of nurturing creativity and inspiration, you ask?
How can planning a memorial possibly be inspiring and beautiful?
Fostering the energy for creative inspiration relies on the balance between practicing self-care and care for others. Nurturing inspiration is rooted in compassion for both self and others.
When you muster your bravery to even think about the difficult topics of loss, death and grief, much less take the caring stance to make a clear plan for it, you ultimately make things easier for you and your loved ones. What could be more caring? What could be a more inspiring legacy to leave behind?
Embrace The Opportunity
To Celebrate & Joyfully Inspire Others
When we think of things that inspire, we often use words like calm, peace of mind, zest for life, beautiful, passion, and comfort. Just as planning ahead for anything brings peace of mind, having your ducks in a row about end-of-life issues is a way to bring comfort, peace and calm to yourself and others. Preparing in advance can also lead to an incredibly beautiful celebration of life and an event that honors your memory. How inspirational!
The alternative is not thinking about it.
When we deny things or hide from reality, we end up suffering far worse.
You and I will experience the inevitable end that happens to everyone at some point. When you make the effort to plan, out of your love for others, you bring beauty and celebration to your life’s ending. For both yourself and surviving loved ones.
Clearly, death is a difficult subject. In our culture, the topic is mostly avoided, denied, or considered far removed from positive things like creativity and inspiration.
Loss and grief are the most intense kind of suffering. But we all must face these. How do we nurture ourselves through difficult moments if we avoid dealing with them?
Wouldn't it be more valuable to embrace our unavoidable, end-of-life issues as an opportunity to celebrate, honor, and joyfully inspire others to live even more fully?
The reason I'm creating more content offering alternatives to traditional memorials and tips for preparing memorial agendas, obituaries, and programs is because I know what it’s like without the planning there in advance. People are enormously consoled when you have something planned ahead of time and when they can follow a structure based on your wishes.
A thoughtful memorial plan and structure brings serenity, comfort, a sense of closure, and even healing to those dealing with loss.
Meaningful Creativity Can Be Born
From Both Suffering And Joy
Many people think of strategies for inspiration as always being something positive. But from my personal experience, creativity can be born from both deep suffering and great joy.
Many of my most valuable and meaningful creative expressions have come from dealing head-on with loss or through my experience of grieving a loved one. This is something that anyone can do. Addressing human pain is in sync with the heartening theme for nurturing your inspiration because we all experience it and we have the potential to create value from our suffering.
Dealing directly with death, whether our own or others, can be the catalyst for tremendous inspiration. It can also lead to reviving a greater spirit for living in the present moment. Facing loss can fuel our efforts to cook, volunteer, garden, work with animals, dance, write poetry or stories, journal, compose music, paint or draw.
Planning ahead for your memorial offers potential for the transformation of an intensely difficult experience into one of tremendously positive value, especially if you base your plans on your compassion for those who will be left behind.
The peace of mind you gain from having a plan in place to deal with memorial issues is an inspiration to those around you. In this way, you demonstrate unequivocal care for yourself and others by making things easier for everyone through your sincere effort to plan ahead.
That kind of sincere effort for others is a huge spark for inspired living.
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